Many of you provided excellent, thought-provoking comments on the blog I wrote last week about sexual harassment. In today’s highly sex-charged environment, I asked for a definition that everyone can agree on.
Several of your comments hinted, and one said directly, that such a definition likely doesn’t exist. Harassment is a very personal issue. What hurts you might not hurt me, and vice versa.
So, coming up with a national standard likely won’t happen.
A former human resources executive reminded me that all companies have a code of conduct handbook that defines sexual harassment, among many other issues, for that company. If an employee crosses that line, termination often is the result. The details don’t have to be made public.
Perhaps Hollywood needs a code of conduct handbook. Federal (and state and local) political bodies, as well.
Perhaps the bottom line is common sense. If something would hurt me, don’t do it. If I even think it might hurt you, don’t do it. If I cross the line by mistake and you say so, I must apologize immediately.
That’s why Garrison Keillor’s situation bothers me. He did that, and still got fired when a lawyer got involved. Perhaps there is more to his story than we know. Perhaps not. We may never know.
Keillor didn’t fight the accusation, so perhaps neither should I.
Searching for the standard
I still wonder:
Is there a standard that we can follow?
Since each us has our own standard, and they aren’t identical, any “true” standard would have to be bigger than ourselves.
This is one reason I submit myself to God’s ways. The one who created us knows what’s best for us, how we should use our bodies and get along with each other.
Since we’ve managed to screw all that up royally these days by ourselves, it’s worth seeking a way out of our mess.
News flash: Neither Republicans, President Trump nor Democrats have the answer. Each may have a part of the answer, but each also misses the mark.
Hollywood is part of the problem, not the solution.
We like to blame “the media” for all kinds of things, without knowing what the media really is.
“The media” used to mean newspapers, radio news and TV newscasts. It’s broadened to include entertainment we see on TV, in magazines and in other places. Newspapers have far less “fake news” in them than other media do. (Disclaimer: I worked in the newspaper industry for nearly 30 years.)
Design, build for productivity
Without getting too theological, God knows us better than we know ourselves, because He created us. When we design and build things, the designer and builder get to decide how those products are used. If we use a product in a way it wasn’t intended, it breaks, or it doesn’t work at all.
It’s the same with us humans. We have limitations. We like to push limits, but sometimes we go too far.
Sexual harassment is a perfect example of this.
So, we need to go back to why our Creator made us in the first place, and what our purpose is.
We were created to “have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the wild animals of the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps upon the earth.” (Genesis 1:26) So, we were created to take care of the earth and everything in it.
We also were created to “be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it …” (Genesis 1:28)
“God saw everything that he had made, and indeed, it was very good.” (Genesis 1:31) This includes us as humans, too. We were created good – actually, “very good.”
How the product fails
So, what happened?
We as humans decided we wanted to control our own lives. Our Creator wasn’t good enough for us any more.
God said: fine. But consequences go along with that, just like there are when we use a product in a way it wasn’t intended to be used.
There wasn’t any written law from Adam to Moses, but there still were consequences for doing things incorrectly. “Right” and “wrong” are written in our hearts. Laws just explain what we already know.
When Moses came along, we got the Ten Commandments – a controversial document then, and a controversial document today – along with a host of other laws and rules of conduct.
You shall not make for yourself an idol.
Honor your father and mother.
You shall not commit adultery.
You shall not covet … your neighbor’s wife … (Exodus 20:4, 12, 14, 17)
When Jesus Christ arrived, he expanded on those themes. For example: “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5: 27)
Here’s another one: “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you … Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” (Matthew 5: 43-44, 48)
There’s our standard. If every one of us followed these “laws,” sexual harassment would become a thing of the past.
Love is not what I think, or what I want. That’s what harassment is all about, isn’t it?
True love is what you want.
The truest love is what God wants, which benefits you and me both more than any love we have for each other can possibly do.
Our standard is perfection. Nothing less.
Jesus knows how impossible that is for us to do. That’s what his life, death and resurrection addressed.
All we have to do is accept Jesus into our hearts and minds, then live for Him the best we can. We still are sinners; we’ll still get it wrong, including on the harassment issue. If you think Christians live happily ever after, well, we don’t and we do. On this earth we do not. In the next life, yes, we will.
As Christians, our hearts should be in the right place; we should live differently than everyone else does, because our motivation is different – to serve others before ourselves. In this sinful, messed up world, we should stand out as shining lights of the way life is supposed to be lived.
Far too many of us claim to be Christians when we really aren’t. We try to justify our sinful desires, rather than try to change to be more like God.
The religious leaders of His day, not the tax collectors and sinners, crucified Jesus. The church people. Those who knew the Scriptures inside and out. Those who should have known better.
If Jesus were to walk in the flesh across the United States today, I’m convinced His message would be exactly the same. And we – the church people – would crucify Him again.
Not all church people would crucify Him, but many would.
Why? Because we reject His standard and prefer our own inferior, sin-infested standards.
Is the church a shining light of God’s pure love? If it is, all of us should want to be a part of it.
That’s the standard.
Someday, we’ll get there.