Very few of us can time our deaths the way our births are timed.
Nine months from conception, there’s a due date. With a natural birth, that’s a pretty good ballpark estimate. For a Cesarean section, the parents get to choose the specific date of birth.
Rarely does that happen on the other side of life.
Every death is sudden, even if it’s expected.
In the span of two days last weekend, five friends or acquaintances breathed their last breath.
They ranged in age from 81 to 43. Four of them had long-term conditions; two were in such severe pain, I’m sure their loved ones saw their passing as relief.
The fifth friend shocked everybody. He was healthy, to my knowledge – no one saw his death coming. He was 62. (I’m 58; he’s my generation.)
Two of them lived in Northeast Ohio, the other three in mid-Michigan (my old stomping grounds).
Death is guaranteed for each of us.
Later rather than sooner, we hope.
Unexpected deaths are the ones that make the news – traffic fatalities, drug overdoses, crime victims, that sort of thing. Most of us won’t leave Earth like that, thankfully, but there’s no guarantees about that, either.
Another friend’s granddaughter died about two weeks ago. She suffered numerous health issues from the day she was born. She was 21.
No one ever said life was fair.
Sometimes, those who suffer have the best dispositions. They are thankful for the blessings they have, even if good health isn’t one of them. Our 81-year-old friend was like that. He had debilitating headaches his entire adult life, but he looked on the bright side every day.
His strong faith allowed him to do that.
He is in heaven now with his savior, Jesus. He knows that with certainty. So does his wife. They were married 61 years.
We visited her yesterday afternoon to offer our condolences. She said she’s not planning a funeral for him, but a homegoing. We knew what she meant.
Funerals are sad. We mourn the loss of our loved one. Rightfully so. But that’s where the focus remains.
With a homegoing, family members and friends know that death is temporary – just a transition to a better life. Healing is promised in heaven. Physical, emotional and every other kind of healing that each of us needs.
The end of time
We mourn the loss of our loved one here on Earth and we miss him or her terribly, but we know we will see him or her again.
Earth is a temporary home, full of pain and struggle, as well as joy and laughter. We know this. Good vs. evil. Unconditional love vs. selfishness. Right vs. wrong.
These battles are fought in the human heart and mind, aren’t they?
We play them out in society, but the real battles take places inside each of us.
When eternity comes, those struggles will end. For better or worse.
We’ll either stand with God in heaven, or we’ll spend forever without Him. The Bible talks about a lake of fire. I wonder also if hell will be a lonely place. We may not see our friends and family any more. Ever again.
I can’t imagine a worse fate than that.
My choice, your choice
We get to choose where we live forever. We determine our own fate, really.
I can’t choose for you, and you can’t choose for me. This is personal, and it’s individual. I can give you chapter and verse, but you must decide whether to accept the gift of life forever or not.
Life is a gift.
Life on Earth is a gift. Each of us must thank our parents, both mother and father, for giving us life. You and I had nothing to do with it.
Life forever is a similar principle. There won’t be marriage in heaven, but we will have a Father. He’s the one who offers us that gift of life eternal.
Most of my friends who just died will receive a homegoing, a celebration of life on Earth and the promise of a wonderful, perfect forever future in heaven.
We can’t wrap our minds around forever. The end of time. No more alarm clocks or deadlnes.
Nor can we fathom perfection. Beauty for beauty’s sake. No hidden agendas. No secrets. No pain or suffering, of any type. No getting tired at night. Never a cold or fever, much less any other sickness or injury.
Mental illness? No such thing any more.
The big picture
One day, we will see the big picture of life. We don’t now. Each of us sees only our small part in this big universe. There’s so much of life I can’t see or understand. I write to try to make sense of it all, but as the Bible says, now I see in a mirror dimly, but then (in heaven) face to face.
I have strong views on certain subjects, and you may have a differing viewpoint on those same subjects. We both might be right, because we see the issue from different perspectives. Neither of us understands the big picture. We try, but we just cannot.
That’s why we need to talk, to listen, to respect each other, to learn from each other.
One day, all the issues we wrestle with will come together. The God of the universe, the One who created us and everything else in it, will reveal all to us.
For now, God has given us earthly minds to learn and grow. None of us can know everything about life.
We desperately need this perspective today.
We need each other.
We NEED each other.
We can’t make this life work without each other. Even though we try.
Oh, we try.
The more I learn, the more I discover how much I don’t know. Keep teaching me, each one of you. I’ll do the same for you.
Meanwhile, as we do that, I’m ready for my homegoing, when all will be well. I’m not expecting it any time soon – I’m still relatively young and in excellent health, if I can say that. No guarantees, of course, except that I will die one day. But whenever the day comes, I hope you’ll celebrate it with me.
And I’d love to celebrate yours, too.
Just not for awhile.
In the meantime, let’s celebrate this life on Earth together. And remember with gratitude those who are already home.